Episode #80

Creating a Job that Works for You: An Interview with Danielle De La Mare

Do you feel anxious and overwhelmed in your life as an academic? Are you on the tenure track but feel stuck or like something is wrong but you can’t put your finger on it? My guest on this episode is Dr. Danielle De La Mare, academic life coach and podcaster, and she has been there and back. She is sharing about her journey from cancer diagnosis and the clarity that gave her, her life pre and post tenure, and how she got to where she is now.

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Key points discussed:

Danielle’s cancer diagnosis and the clarity it gave her in realizing what she truly needed in life. [2:30]
Anxiety, overwork, and never feeling good enough. [6:00]
Being a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) on the tenure track [9:30]
Realizing she wanted to coach and feeling like a “coach posing as a professor”. [15:30]
What coaching means, and how Danielle got there. [22:00]
Danielle’s coaching focus and bringing out your inner wisdom [24:00]
Danielle’s podcast and having more self-compassion [35:00]

Key Quotes:

“I was not living the life I wanted to be living.” -Danielle De La Mare
“I was very much in need of human connection.” -Danielle De La Mare
“I need a job that works for me.” -Danielle De La Mare
“I was a coach posing as a professor.” -Danielle De La Mare
“One of the things I want people to understand…is the difference between teaching and consulting and coaching…and therapy.” -Cathy Mazak
“You don’t have to listen to your inner critic.” -Danielle De La Mare
“My job as a coach is to say, ‘wait a minute, is that really what you want?’” -Danielle De La Mare
“For me, I knew that getting out was the right decision.” -Cathy Mazak
“We need to be more self-compassionate.” -Danielle De La Mare